Let’s have a real talk about something I know so many of us wrestle with—the all-or-nothing mentality.

You know the one. That little voice that says “If I can’t do it perfectly, then what’s the point in doing it at all?” Yeah… that voice is loud sometimes. And sneaky. And totally unhelpful.

I’ve been there. Honestly? I still catch myself slipping into that mindset. It’s easy to fall into. But today, I want to unpack what the all-or-nothing mentality actually looks like, why it’s secretly holding you back, and—most importantly—how to kick it to the curb for good.

So grab your coffee, get comfy, and let’s dive in.

So… What Is the All-or-Nothing Mentality?

Let’s break it down. The all-or-nothing mentality might sound like:

• “If I can’t work out for an hour, I won’t work out at all.”
• “If I can’t deep clean the house, I won’t clean anything.”
• “If I can’t post daily on social, I might as well post nothing.”

Sound familiar? Yup. It feels like we’re holding ourselves to high standards—but really, we’re just sabotaging our own progress. This kind of thinking leads to burnout, procrastination, and way too much unnecessary stress.

Why the All-or-Nothing Mentality Is Holding You Back

Let’s be real—this mindset is not serving you. The all-or-nothing mentality tells you that anything less than perfect isn’t worth doing. And that’s just not true.

Here’s what this mentality actually does:

• Makes you feel overwhelmed and paralyzed.
• Tells you that if you can’t do everything, you should do nothing.
• Keeps you stuck waiting for the “perfect time” that never comes.
• Makes you feel like you’re failing… even when you’re actually making progress.

The truth? Perfection is a myth. And the all-or-nothing mentality will keep you stuck way longer than any imperfect action ever will.

5 Ways to Let Go of the All-or-Nothing Mentality

Let’s talk solutions—here’s how we start shifting out of that trap:

1. Done is better than perfect.

Your best today is enough. Imperfect progress is still progress.

2. Aim for something instead of everything.

No time for a full workout? Do a 10-minute walk.
Too overwhelmed to clean the whole house? Wipe down the counters.
Can’t batch a month of content? Post one thing.
Let go of the all-or-nothing mentality and give yourself permission to take small, doable steps.

3. Break it down into tiny steps.

“Clean the bathroom” feels huge. But “wipe the counter, mirror, and toilet” feels doable. Often, once I start, I end up finishing or coming back to it later.

Same with content planning. Don’t feel like you need to plan the whole month. Just plan the next post. Start small.

4. Embrace “good enough.”

A halfway-filled planner? Still better than a blank one.
A messy Instagram post? Still connection.
A semi-clean house? Still a win.

5. Reframe failure.

Missing a day isn’t failure. It’s feedback. It shows where you can adjust—not where you’ve failed. Just pick it back up and keep going. You’re doing great.

So let’s make a little promise to ourselves today: No more letting the all-or-nothing mentality call the shots.

Done is better than perfect. Good enough is still progress. Your small steps? They matter.

Now I want to hear from YOU— What’s one way you’re letting go of the all-or-nothing mentality this week? Drop it in the comments or tag me in your Instagam stories.